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Controversial Issues

Women Working

For earthly matters, women were first and foremost created to help their husbands (Genesis 2:18) by assisting and loving their husbands, to raise godly children, and to maintain their houses (I Timothy 5:14). A woman’s first priority is her husband (Ephesians 5:22-33) and their children (Ephesians 6:1-4); then, if she can completely fulfill these duties, she must work (Proverbs 31:13-16). This is not only because the husband and children are more important than work, it is also because women are sanctified through child rearing (I Timothy 2:15), children need discipline to function properly (Proverbs 29:15), and a godly woman is honorable for any man (I Corinthians 11:7-9).

With the specific issue of women leading outside the context of the church, God prefers that men lead there as well because of 5 reasons: all major prophets were men, the prophet Isaiah lamented that women were leading (Isaiah 3:12), God ordained 17 judges for Israel with one being a woman (Judges 4:4), women are naturally the weaker vessels (I Peter 3:7), and because it seems counterintuitive for God to command men to lead in marriage and in the church but not in the workplace. Not only this, the people under Israel’s only female judge, Deborah, were wicked (Judges 4:1). When the people of Deborah’s time were facing grave oppression (Judges 4:3), God wanted a man, Barak, to lead Israel (Judges 4:4,6); but because Barak would only go if Deborah came with him (Judges 4:8), God allowed Deborah to lead as well. Even Deborah knew that the honor of defeating Jabin, Israel’s oppressor, belonged to a man (Judges 4:9). God does put women in positions of authority when men are incapable; but in normal circumstances, men should lead—everywhere.

Other perspectives, from women authors, are about Women being CEOs and Having Business Positions.

Rebuttals

  • Women could not lead then because they weren’t educated.
    • If education was the issue, Paul would have not only stated this, but He also would have prohibited uneducated men from teaching. In addition, ancient inscriptions and literature speak about many well-educated women in Asia Minor during that time.
  • That culture was oppressive to women; but now, our culture is evolving past that.
    • If the culture was oppressive to women, that still is unrelated to how God ordained men to lead in the Bible.
  • Women could not lead then, or now, because women are not trained to behave as leaders.
    • Nowhere in the Bible is their advice on how to train women to be leaders, but there are many sections that talk about training men to be leaders.

 

Husband and Wife Relationship

Rebuttals

  • When the Bible says the husband is the head of the wife, it means that the husband is the source of support for the wife.
    • In any ancient Greek interpretation of the word head, or kephale, it is in the context of one person or group having authority over another.
    • The verse following the verse talking about how the husband is the head of the wife says that the wife should submit to the husband in everything.

 

Women Teaching or Exercising Authority over Men in Church

Woman cannot teach or exercise authority over men (I Timothy 2:12) because Adam was formed first (I Timothy 2:13), and Adam was not deceived first but Eve did and became the first sinner (I Timothy 2:14). In the church setting, women are commanded by God to not teach Scripture to men or having authority over them. Compellingtruth.org agrees that “[w]omen being restricted from spiritual teaching [and] authority over men is not a punishment. Rather, it is a refocusing to the ministries, skills, and gifts God [blessed] women [with].” One of these ministries is teaching younger women (Titus 2:3-5).

Rebuttals

  • Women were teaching false doctrines in Ephesus; this is why Paul was commanding women not to teach or have authority.
    • There’s no biblical or historical evidence for women teaching false doctrines in 1st century Ephesus. Not only this, it was men who were teaching false doctrines; so Paul should’ve been prohibiting them, if teaching false doctrines was the reason for prohibition.
    • * All four of these arguments overlook Paul’s appeal to creation and the Fall. Something about men being created first and something about women sinning first is the reason why women can’t teach or exercise authority over men in church.
  • Paul only said this because women were not educated enough to teach.
    • If education was the issue, Paul would have not only stated this, but He also would have prohibited uneducated men from teaching. In addition, ancient inscriptions and literature speak about many well-educated women in Asia Minor during that time.
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  • Paul only said this for that particular culture.
    • All books of the Bible contain timeless principles that are relevant to any generation. The only times the Bible has material relevant to the particular generation are in the Old Testament, and specific principles are removed with direct statements in the New Testament. (An example is eating shellfish and pork.)
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  • These passages are only talking about wives, not women, because the Greek word used here is gyne or gune, which means wife in certain contexts.
    • The word gyne or gune means a woman of any age or context.
    • If gyne or gune did mean wife, then that means only wives should dress respectably, with modesty and with self-control, which is certainly true for all women. It’s more likely that because all women should dress respectably, all women is the context for the next verses. Paul does not make sudden changes in the context of a word—from all women to wives.

 

Character Qualities

About “Men” (probably a metaphor for “people”)

  • Made in God’s image
    • Genesis 1:26
  • Righteous
    • Psalms 1:1-3
    • Psalms 112:4,6
    • I Timothy 6:11
  • Godliness
    • I Timothy 6:11
  • Faith
    • I Timothy 6:11
  • Love
    • I Timothy 6:11
  • Steadfast
    • I Timothy 6:11
    • I Corinthians 15:58
  • Doing the Lord’s Work
    • I Corinthians 15:58
  • Gentleness
    • I Timothy 6:11
  • Helping each other
    • Proverbs 27:17
  • Putting away childish ways
    • I Corinthians 13:11
  • Not Swearing
    • James 5:12
  • Justice
    • Micah 6:8
    • Psalms 112:5
  • Kindness
    • Micah 6:8
  • Humility
    • Micah 6:8
  • Skillful
    • Proverbs 22:29
  • Fears the Lord
    • Psalms 112:1
  • Delights in God’s commandments, not the wicked’s
    • Psalms 1:1-2
    • Psalms 37:23
    • Psalms 112:1
    • Matthew 6:33
  • Yields Fruit of the Spirit
    • Psalms 1:3
  • Prosperous
    • Psalms 1:3
  • Gracious, Merciful
    • Psalms 37:26
    • Psalms 112:4
  • Generous
    • Psalms 112:5,9
  • Not Afraid
    • Psalms 112:7-8

Comparing Men and Women

  • Genesis 2:18,23-24
    • Men—men will leave parents (not women leave parents)
    • Women—helper to man, made out of man
  • I Corinthians 11:3-16
    • Men—head of man is Christ; praying with head covered is dishonorable; is the image and glory of God; not created for women
    • Women—head of wife is husband; praying with head uncovered is dishonorable; is the glory of man; made from man; created for man
  • Ephesians 5:22-33
    • Men—head of wife; loves wife; man will leave parents
    • Women—submit to husbands; respect man
  • I Timothy 2:8-15
    • Men—pray
    • Women—dress modestly; be Godly; do good works; learn humbly; be submissive; do not teach men; don’t usurp authority over men; continue in faith, charity, and sobriety
  • Titus 2:2-6
    • Men—sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith and love, and steadfast
    • Women—reverent, not slanderers or slaves to wine, self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to husband

Specifically About Men

  • Stories
    • Paul wrote to the men of the Corinthian church.
      • I Corinthians 16:12-15
    • Characteristics
      • Trusting
        • Proverbs 31:11
      • Reputable
        • Proverbs 31:23
      • Mighty
        • 2nd Samuel 10:7
      • Courageous
        • 2nd Samuel 10:12
      • Brave
        • Ezekiel 22:30
      • Faithful
        • Proverbs 20:6
        • Titus 2:7
      • Just
        • Jeremiah 5:1
      • Seeks Truth
        • Jeremiah 5:1
      • Sober-minded, Logical, Rational, Sensible
        • Titus 2:7
      • Dignified
        • Titus 2:7
      • Self-Controlled
        • Titus 2:7
      • Loving
        • Titus 2:7
      • Steadfast
        • Titus 2:7
      • Pure
        • Psalms 119:9
      • Competent
        • 2 Timothy 3:17

Specifically About Women

  • Submissive
    • Titus 2:5
    • Ephesians 5:22-23
  • Precious
    • Proverbs 31:10
  • Good
    • Proverbs 31:12
  • Respectable, Modest
    • I Timothy 2:8-10
  • Works hard, Diligent
    • Proverbs 31:13,19,22,24,27
    • Titus 2:5
  • Intelligent
    • Proverbs 31:16
  • Physically Strong
    • Proverbs 31:17
  • Faithful
    • I Timothy 2:15
  • Generous
    • Proverbs 31:20
  • Confident
    • Proverbs 31:18
  • Calm
    • Proverbs 31:21,25
  • Dignified, reverent in behavior
    • Proverbs 31:25
    • Titus 2:3
  • Wise
    • Proverbs 31:26
  • Kind
    • Proverbs 31:26
    • Titus 2:5
  • Have work, children and husband that praise her
    • Proverbs 31:28,31
  • Fears the Lord
    • Proverbs 31:30
  • Not Drunkards
    • Titus 2:3
  • Loving
    • Titus 2:4
    • I Timothy 2:15
  • Self-controlled
    • Titus 2:5
    • I Timothy 2:8-10,15
  • Pure, Holy
    • Titus 2:5
    • I Timothy 2:15

 

Responsibilities

Of Men

With the World: http://www.watermark.org/blog/how-to-be-a-godly-man/
Step Up
  • Lead/Initiate.
    • Ezekiel 22:30
  • Reject apathy and passivity.
  • Be Bold.
    • Acts 4:13,29,31
Speak Out
  • Speak the truth about other Christians in love.
    • Proverbs 27:5-6
  • Speak out about atrocities and for those who cannot.
    • Proverbs 31:8-9
    • Jeremiah 38:1-13
    • Acts 4:13-21
    • Acts 16: 16-24
  • Speak about Jesus.
    • [refer to Outreach document]
  • Silence in the midst of sin is a sin.
    • Ezekiel 3:18-21
    • Leviticus 5:1
    • “In the end we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends.” -Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Stand Strong
  • Be courageous; fear only God.
    • I Samuel 17:48-51—David stands up to Goliath.
    • I Samuel 30:16-17—David killed the Amalekites and rescued his wives.
    • II Samuel 10:7,12
    • Courage—doing what is right in spite of my fear or lack of desire to do so (Nathan Daman)
  • Don’t give in.
    • Jeremiah 1:18-19
    • I Corinthians 15:58
    • I Peter 5:8-9
Stay Humble
  • Take advice from others.
    • Psalms 141:5
  • Don’t think less of yourself (false humility); think of yourself less.
    • I Peter 5:5-7
  • Admit mistakes; answer to God.
    • Psalms 51—David singing about his faults with Bathsheba.
Serve the King
  • Delights in God’s commandments, not the wicked’s.
    • Psalms 1:1-2
    • Psalms 37:23
    • Psalms 112:1
    • Matthew 6:33
  • Seek the kingdom of God.
    • Matthew 6:33
  • Love the Lord with all your heart.
    • I Samuel 13:13-14; Acts 13:22
    • Matthew 22:37-38
  • Serve others
    • Mark 10:45
    • 2 Corinthians 4:5
With Singleness
  • Focus on being a man of character.
    • Think more about how you can be a Godly man for her versus who you can find that would be a Godly woman for you.
    • Accountability software—software that blocks ads or porn sites
      • Don’t use your computer at bad times or places.
    • If you really want a wife, do you think you’re ready?
    • Have an accountability partner, someone you can call when you’re failing.
    • Don’t give in; wait until you find the right woman.
    • Date someone who is passionately pursuing Jesus.
    • Pray for a woman you might start dating.
      • It’s harder to lust after her.
With a Girlfriend
  • Signs of an emotionally dependent relationship
    • Time is demanded from a person.
    • When something goes wrong, life stops and other relationships suffer.
    • Thoughts are unhealthily consumed with that person and the future.
    • Other friendships are strained or neglected.
    • A person needs constant confirmation of the relationship status.
  • Those that pray together lay together.
  • Don’t pray to compliment or start a fight.
  • Plan for the future with respect to how long you’ve been together.
  • Don’t spend too much time together.
  • Men connect physically, and women connect emotionally. Guard yourself from physical touch, and guard her from being overly emotional.
  • Think of reality, not our dreams.—Philippians 4:8
  • Minimize electronic communication.
  • Seek out same gender (male) help first when issues arise.
  • Don’t stay at one of your places alone.
    • “Nothing good happens after midnight.”
  • Have someone ask you both tough questions.
  • Don’t be in a dark room alone with her.
  • Follow wisdom, not your hormones.
  • If she hasn’t let you touch it, don’t.
    • Never touch certain places until you’re married.
With a Wife
  • Love the wife as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28,33)
  • To your wives, be understanding and show honor. (I Peter 3:7)
With Children
  • Manage his household well; keep his children submissive with dignity (I Timothy 3:4)