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How to Love

Actively

Acquaintances/Friends
  • Do Good Works and Speak the Truth
    • I John 3:18— Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.
  • Talk to people about what’s bothering them.
  • Hug them.
  • Affirm them.
  • Serve them.
Family/Romantic Partners
  • Spend much time together, purposefully alone.
  • Give gifts.
  • Touch them (non-sexually).
Those You Love
  • Sacrifice Your Life for a Friend(s)
    • John 15:13— Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Passively

  • Be Patient
    • I Corinthians 13:4— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
  • Be Kind
    • I Corinthians 13:4-5— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
  • Be Content
    • I Corinthians 13:4— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
  • Be Humble
    • I Corinthians 13:4— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
  • Be Flexible
    • I Corinthians 13:4-5— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
  • Be Forgiving
    • I Corinthians 13:4-5— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
  • Be Peaceful
    • I Corinthians 13:4-5— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
  • Be Righteous
    • I Corinthians 13:4,6— Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant…6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
  • Be Steadfast
    • I Corinthians 13:7— Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
  • See the Best in People
    • I Corinthians 13:7— Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
  • Hopes the Best for People
    • I Corinthians 13:7— Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
  • Don’t Cause Fear
    • I John 4:18— There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.
  • Be Genuine
    • Romans 12:9— Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.

Types of Love

  • Agape
    • on the level they want, outwardly (inwardly can be higher)
    • unconditional: without reciprocation or benefits
    • self-sacrificial: putting their needs/desires above your own
    • brotherly love
    • God’s love for us
  • Eros
    • lust
    • sexual passion
    • intimacy (physical or not)
  • Philia
    • friendship
    • between equals
    • dispassionate but virtuous
    • loyal
  • Storge
    • natural affection
    • parents for offspring
  • Care
    • concerned about another’s well-being
    • short-term
    • not initially involuntary

Who to Love

  • God
    • Mark 12:30—And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
  • People Treated as Neighbors
    • Mark 12:31—The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
  • People Treated as Brothers
    • I John 4:20-21—If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 21 And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.
  • Spouse
    • Ephesians 5:25—Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
  • Enemies
    • Luke 6:27— But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,

When to Love

  • Always
    • I Corinthians 16:14— Let all that you do be done in love.

Why Love

  • God First Loved Us
    • I John 4:19— We love because he first loved us.
  • God Lives in Us if We Love One Another
    • I John 4:12— No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.
  • How Non-believers Know We are Disciples of Christ
    • John 13:34-35— A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
  • We’re Commanded To
    • John 13:34-35— A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
  • Confidence in Death
    • I John 4:17— By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world.
  • People Forgive Easier
    • I Peter 4:8—Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Aspects about Love

  • About the Two Greatest Commandments
    • Mark 12:28-31—And one of the scribes came up and heard them disputing with one another, and seeing that he answered them well, asked him, “Which commandment is the most important of all?” 29 Jesus answered, “The most important is, ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
  • Harmoniously Binds Everything in the New Self
    • Colossians 3:14— And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
  • Eternal
    • I Corinthians 13:8— Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
  • Greater than Hope and Faith
    • I Corinthians 13:13— So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
  • Greater than Speaking in Tongues, Prophecy, Complete Knowledge, Faith, and Martyrdom
    • I Corinthians 13:1-3—If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
  • Is God
    • I John 4:8— Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.
  • From God
    • I John 4:7—Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.
  • Non-believers Can’t Perfectly Love
    • I John 4:7,12— Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 12 No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.
  • Shown through Jesus
    • I John 4:9-10— In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.