How can love destroy hate?

Summary

Love is the opinion that another life should stay alive (John 3:16), while hate is prolonged anger (Matthew 5:21-22). Love is the most important thing God wants us to do (Mark 12:29,30-31) because it keeps societies from fighting (Colossians 3:14). Learn to love your enemies (Luke 6:27) because God loved you first (I John 4:19), even though we are self-centered sinners (Romans 5:8).

Endorsements

All Christians believe in love.

Reasons

Hate is desiring to kill.

Most people will say they wouldn’t kill anyone, but if they feel even a slight bit of resentment or prolonged anger towards someone, it’s almost the same as murder (Matthew 5:21-22), because it leads to it (James 4:1-2). So many of us say we love God, yet if you won’t even talk to someone in your own family or a fellow Christian who hurt you, you’re lying to yourself (I John 4:20).

Love is desiring that another life should thrive.

Love is the opinion that another life should stay alive (John 3:16) and that he should have the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23; I John 4:12-13). Love is forgiving all sins (Luke 7:47; I Peter 4:8) and reconciling a broken relationship (Romans 5:8,10) with every enemy (Luke 6:27), even with those who hate you (Luke 6:32). This may sound hard, but remember that God loved you first (I John 4:19). Real love is only possible with Jesus Christ (I John 4:7).

Love is the Greatest Commandment.

The most important commandment God gave humanity is to love Him and our neighbors (Mark 12:29,30-31). We must love God with all of our emotions, purpose, intelligence, and will. Our neighbor is not someone who is deemed trustworthy by society (Luke 10:31) but anyone who shows us mercy (Luke 10:36-37).

Love is selfless.

The sinful mind thinks love is doing what we think is best for others, but it’s arrogant and prideful to assume we know best (I Corinthians 8:2). Really, love is kind and patient to the needs of others. Love doesn’t get envious of others or boast in one’s accomplishments (I Corinthians 13:4). Love doesn’t rudely or arrogantly insist that his way is right. It also doesn’t feel irritated or resentful when something doesn’t go his way (I Corinthians 13:4-5; Proverbs 18:2). Love never rejoices in the calamity of an enemy, yet always rejoices when the truth is understood (I Corinthians 13:6). Love bears with ignorance, believes the best in people, hopes for perfection, and endures all pain (I Corinthians 13:7)

Love is the strongest force in the universe.

Many seek money or power, but real influence is found in love. No amount of supernatural power, knowledge, or sacrifice can compare with love (I Corinthians 13:1-3). All forms of power will eventually be overshadowed by something greater, like how the glory of the horse and buggy was replaced with the glory of the car, but love is eternal (I Corinthians 13:8). Ultimately, love is the greatest concept in the universe (I Corinthians 13:13) and is the very essence of our perfect God (I John 4:7-8).

Love is fulfilling all of God’s laws.

Ultimately, love is about not wronging other people in society (Romans 13:10), as this is the only force that can keep any society together (Colossians 3:14). If you perfectly love, you actually fulfill every law in the Bible (Galatians 5:14), but this isn’t easy to do (James 2:8-9). Love is about trying to keep every commandment (John 14:21).

Examples

Making sacrifices is nothing compared to love.

Many fathers think sacrificing their life to earn money is loving, but God desires steadfast love (Hosea 6:6; Mark 12:33). Almost any neglected child would tell you that he wishes his parents were around more, not that they’d make more money. The same is true for any sacrifice we make; in the end, it means nothing to a God that can speak a world into existence (Genesis 1:1). God is not seeking your work; He’s seeking for worshippers that obey the truth (John 4:23).

Love is not putting others above yourself.

Some say love is about putting others above ourselves, but Jesus said to “love our neighbor as ourself” (Mark 12:31; Ephesians 5:33). When you love someone more than yourself, you admit that the person is not yourself. That person then becomes an idol, like the “love” of a jealous boyfriend or girlfriend (Exodus 20:3). God instead has called 2 to become 1 person (Genesis 2:24) because this represents the mystery of our wedding with Jesus (Ephesians 5:31-32). Jesus loves us as much as Himself (Ephesians 5:28-29), not any greater or any less, because we are His body (Ephesians 5:30), and no body part is loved any more or any less (I Corinthians 12:23-25). Read more about practically balancing love

The Greeks had 4 types of love.

In the New Testament, you’ll see 3 different translations of love, and a 4th not used in the Bible. Agape is the self-sacrificial love of God, philia is the love between friends, eros is the sexual love of partners, and storge (not used in the Bible) for that love between a parent and child. An example of this is Jesus asking Peter if he agapes Him, but Peter responds that he only feels philia towards Jesus (John 21:15). So, Jesus asked him twice more, and he eventually says he feels agape (John 21:17).

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